What would you prefer?
As of me, I think I’d prefer the second scenario any day. Anyone asking me anything would be way better and sophisticated than someone just throwing commands at me. I now I’d agree with the person anyway, if he or she is that important to me, and yet I’d like to be asked first, no matter what!
Just think of it and you might feel it too. Or may be I care too much and listen more than needed to the said words. (It could be possible with me having a lot of time to spare now, I might be actually giving too much importance to these words spoken.)