I have a Marathi friend whom I recently wished ‘Gudi Padwa’. It is their beginning of New Year just as some of us celebrate in on 31st December. I texted him my heartiest wishes with all the warmth in my heart, being the excited one that I am. And all I got in return was ‘I hope you have an amazing year ahead, but I am not allowed to celebrate this year.’
I then got to know that his old grandmother passed away a few months ago and he could not celebrate let alone enjoy any of the functions for a year as the custom says.
Oaky, most of us go through this and have to abide by the rules but then something still strikes me hard. First of all the very word ‘Allowed’ shakes my nerves to the core. I mean why would someone have to be allowed to do anything? He or she has his own life and should he not have the freedom to decide what he/she wants do.
So it is customary to mourn of a year? But what if the person is yet not out of the mournful period and not want to celebrate life? What I believe is mourn as much as you want, until you have moved on. One may not want to celebrate anything even after a long year because he or she still misses the beloved. One might still want to celebrate even if a year has not passed away, the reason may be he was not close to the person, he was happy that the person was free at last from the tortures of the hospital and the old age, or even that he has simply moved on with life. The person had to go and he could not stop him. But then what stops him from celebrating life? Just customs and beliefs.
My friend here did love his grandmother but she was pretty old and the last few days were too troublesome for her, for any of us to go through the pains and when at last she passed away everyone was sad but then nothing could have been done. So they mourned and finally moved on.
But the sad part was they did not celebrate festivals just to portray to the other society members they cared enough.
I am not saying what they should have done. Many people still believe into many rituals and if they are fine with it then why not, but all I felt sorry for was because they did all this, went through all the troubles for a whole year just to prove to somebody else, our dear society.
My friend wanted to desperately celebrate his new year, for it is the only thing that mattered to him, after of course his birthday but sadly he did not only because he was not ‘allowed’ to celebrate the day.
I think I am having too many social gathering these days. Anyways, I was there sitting among-st my peeps, all dressed up and engrossed in what was going on around. Well, it was a ‘jagran’ (where you are awake all night and sing spiritual songs/bhajan).
I for a fact like these occasions, it is an absolute change from all of your arduousness. So there I was sitting beside my cousin almost singing to the rhythms when something caught my attention. And how I perceive is something like this.
Haven’t the present generation heard a lot about being anti-socializing in the form of socializing and even about being too much on their phones and over the net? But there are exceptions. So this might not be wrong. It’s true that we are drifting away from socializing in the form of socializing but the reality also has it other side. In my gathering there were very few people from present generation and anyways this is not about them. What I saw was that the older and the dear ones were busy engrossed on their cell-phones. Though some of them were obviously wholly-devoted but some of them were more interested in ‘sharing’ what they were seeing. I saw people over whatsapp chatting, someone sharing a video to the other who could not be present, snapchat was also to be seen, oh and yes I literally saw a check in for this too on my feed post. So is it only the present generation that is all caught up in ‘seizing the moment?’
It is good to capture something but what about also trying to at least live the moment too. We all click pictures and take videos but what about staying in the present too?
They say that the present generation is not that ‘religious’, I say “may be not” but what about pretending to be too religious and being present physically while the mind wanders to a distant land where some altogether another dream is coming true. For me nothing is wrong in that too but then why criticize when someone else does it and try make it right for yourself.
Anyways it was fun for a change to see the reverse.
John Donne has got the conception of a wrathful God intent on punishing those who go against His commandments.
But Crashaw is altogether a different breed. He is a radiant spirit who feels perfectly assured of his salvation to God. Crashaw’s God is generally the God of love who cannot bear to see the misery of His creation.
And as always I am still confused. What is the truth? Can He be as gracious as to forgive even our gravest sins or is it vice versa? Can he really punish us for the deeds that are not supposed to be performed in His creations?
If Karma exists then of course we will be punished but then how can God see his own children suffer the retribution?
Is he wrathful or the God of love?
“Dekhan bag kunwar dui aye, vay kishor sab bhaati sahaye,
Shyam aur kimi kaho bakhani, gira anyan nayan binu bani.”
The couplet is taken from Tulsidas’s “Ramcharitmanas”
The sakhis (friends) tell Sita about the place where they saw Ram and Laxman and that they were in their youth and that they both were dark and fair complexioned. Beyond that they fail to communicate anything as they say that the eyes that saw them had no tongue and the tongue which can describe them had no sight.
The silence in these two lines is loud.
I cannot interpret these beautiful lines in any language. It is just beyond me but today I bumped into these lines and I can tell that this was the most beautiful thing that I have read today (And I have read a lot, today!) It was just a pleasure to read these lines and the soothing feeling that it gave me, I know not why.
It was calm and yet so powerful at the same time.
Hope you enjoyed it too!
Well, most of you know that we celebrate Diwali for the arrival of Lord Ram, Laxman and Sita from a 14 year long exile back to Ayodhya. I have been celebrating Diwali for all these years merrily, lighting diyas, burning crackers despite all the environmental hazards. But this year something is bothering me. I am sorry if I do not put this clearly as I am myself unclear about what and how I am going to say this.
So my question is we celebrate the come back of the Lords to their palace but has anyone ever thought that just after their return Lord Ram disowns his wife on a pretext of a common man who thinks Sita was not pure enough to be a Queen. Has it never occurred to anyone that it is more of a celebration of an denigration of a woman. I mean how can anyone define purity of a woman? How could a man disown his wife? How could he do it when she was pregnant with his children? How were the rules and powers of a king suddenly more important than the promises to a wife? So suddenly all the love vanishes and the authority of being a king comes in power?
I am sorry to have bothered you with these questions and also if I have spoiled your Diwali with such questions but I had to speak this out, somewhere!
Despite all of these I do not intend to damage the fun so here’s to everyone who is reading this – A very happy Diwali and a prosperous year ahead. May the coming years do not have such actions which make people question them. May the future do not put down the integrity of any human being male or female. May all our lives be as bright as it could be.
PS: Even if I am a bit clear to anyone I’d be glad.
PPS: This post would mean something to you only if You believe in God and if you don’t; Well, a happy diwali to you too. 🙂
“I have faith in God!
I have faith in my guardian angel who brought me here and who stays here with me.”
I do not remember where I read this but this has stayed with me stuck on a post it, above my study for a few years now. And when I am down this sure pulls me up. It’s difficult to always have that faith but once I try and believe in it I just leave everything on I don’t know, destiny?
It starts every year and ends too. Every year it seems that the year was special and so was this. Every single year makes me feel an inch more nostalgic and keep me waiting for the next year.
Navratri 2016 was exceptional, the fun, the joy, the drums, the dandiya just does not want to leave me or vice versa. But now that it’s all over I have to leave all of this and return to the doldrums of my regular life.
And the feeling that I get is no less than the feeling when we have to send Lord Ganesha after Ganpati.
I know I it would be too early to wait for the next year but I am just another human who does not wish to part from the Navratri and Durga pooja fun.
Because simplicity is beauty for me.
Enjoying the dance.
Just warming up 😉
Gujarati folks enjoying the Dandiya night.
Wishing you all a great Navratri and Durga Puja ahead.